One of the hardest decisions one has to make in one’s life is whether or not to end a marriage, and the one thing a friend should never do is to tell them to do so!

Ending a long-term relationship isn’t normally a sudden reaction to something, the thought will have been lodged in the back of one’s mind for a long time. The one thing I have said to people contemplating this action but are afraid to make the move is, you will know when the time is right when staying is harder than going.

The first emotion is one of relief, the freedom is almost exhilarating then comes the hard bit. Ending something has the same emotions as someone dying and going through those emotions is always tough, you even question your judgement especially if you are the one who has ended it.

The problem with emotions is, that they can creep up on you when least expected and can crush you. Therefore it is important to build a support group around you. It is also important to remember this journey you have chosen is a long one with many highs and lows. Why is this? The decision you have made does not just affect you and your ex but also your children and your inlaws.

Young people today don’t always have those emotions because they haven’t had the years of building those relationships, therefore divorce or separation comes easier…..too easy in some cases!

My advice to anyone contemplating or questioning the decision they have made is, to hang on in there and remember how bad things were and all the possibilities that lay ahead of you.